Not good at the moment...

ClareandCo · 12-07-2011, 05:38 PM

So that I don't block someone else's thread -

Thank you for your messages and those that have sent pm's.

My Father who was 82 and suffered from Parkinsons was admitted to hospital on Sunday 26th June following a fall at home. He said he had a severe pain in his stomach. The ambulance came (its a bit remote there and took 50 minutes to arrive) but it didn't appear to be too serious. Due to his sudden poor heart rate and low blood pressure and the 90 degree heat he was taken to hospital.

We arrived (live 60 miles away) to hear that it was an aneurysm in his abdomen the mortality rate for which is high. The surgeon was called who said an immediate scan was being arranged as it might be a stomach abcess. Then came the devastating news that he had a large mass in his abdomen and it had spread to his liver. We were told there was nothing they could do, except "feed him up and get him back to some sort of good health and send him home".

Things got worse quickly - he had numerous infections and a very severe chest one and was too ill for a biopsy. We stayed with him all night on the Tuesday returning during the day on the Wednesday, leaving about tea time only to get a call to return to the hospital about 9.30 pm. We arrived too late - he had gone.

The shock has been awful. He was giving up as the Parkinsons took hold, but the Specialist had said in May how pleased with him he was and he wouldn't need to see him for a year.

He died never knowing he had colon and liver cancer (as on the death certificate). In fact he never knew anything from Tuesday morning.

The funeral is tomorrow, and I'm finding it increasingly hard. He was the kindest and most generous man so immensely proud of my two sons.

Again, thank you for all your kind words. I never expected this so soon and so suddenly.

Mrs Frog · 12-07-2011, 05:49 PM

I am so so sorry,try to be brave and strong,it is so sad

My Gran had an aeortyl aneurysm (sp) so I think it is sililar or maybe the same
She had stomach pain for months,they said it was IBS
I rang her every day,one day when I rang she asked me to ring her milkman as he owed her £1,I said I would and ring her back
Ten minutes later I phoned her back and she didnt answer,she never went out as she was too frail
She had passed away in those 10 minutes,I felt so so sad,my children cried all night.
That was 4 years ago,sometimes I am glad that I got to speak to her and I was the last one to,and that she probably didnt suffer and then other times I am angry that I didnt get there in time
Thinking of you and your family and Hope you get through the funeral ok,so sorry xxxx

**Bindi** · 12-07-2011, 05:49 PM

I am so sorry Clare xxx

**Alan1** · 12-07-2011, 05:57 PM

sorry to hear your news

Anita Sayles · 12-07-2011, 06:18 PM

Sorry Clare x

pagan queen · 12-07-2011, 06:37 PM

So, so sorry for your loss Clare.

sky · 12-07-2011, 07:27 PM

Thinking of you Clare, BIG hugs x

filardimarg2 · 12-07-2011, 07:31 PM

I'm so sorry to hear this news.

Marg.

ClareandCo · 12-07-2011, 07:50 PM

Thank you all.

Petrus · 12-07-2011, 08:29 PM

Hi Claire,

Sorry to hear about your news. I will say a prayer for your Dad. May he rest in peace.

Peter x

12-07-2011, 05:38 PM	#1
ClareandCo Senior Member Sub Adult Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 1,350	Not good at the moment... So that I don't block someone else's thread - Thank you for your messages and those that have sent pm's. My Father who was 82 and suffered from Parkinsons was admitted to hospital on Sunday 26th June following a fall at home. He said he had a severe pain in his stomach. The ambulance came (its a bit remote there and took 50 minutes to arrive) but it didn't appear to be too serious. Due to his sudden poor heart rate and low blood pressure and the 90 degree heat he was taken to hospital. We arrived (live 60 miles away) to hear that it was an aneurysm in his abdomen the mortality rate for which is high. The surgeon was called who said an immediate scan was being arranged as it might be a stomach abcess. Then came the devastating news that he had a large mass in his abdomen and it had spread to his liver. We were told there was nothing they could do, except "feed him up and get him back to some sort of good health and send him home". Things got worse quickly - he had numerous infections and a very severe chest one and was too ill for a biopsy. We stayed with him all night on the Tuesday returning during the day on the Wednesday, leaving about tea time only to get a call to return to the hospital about 9.30 pm. We arrived too late - he had gone. The shock has been awful. He was giving up as the Parkinsons took hold, but the Specialist had said in May how pleased with him he was and he wouldn't need to see him for a year. He died never knowing he had colon and liver cancer (as on the death certificate). In fact he never knew anything from Tuesday morning. The funeral is tomorrow, and I'm finding it increasingly hard. He was the kindest and most generous man so immensely proud of my two sons. Again, thank you for all your kind words. I never expected this so soon and so suddenly.

12-07-2011, 05:49 PM	#2
Mrs Frog Senior Member Adult Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Bournemouth Posts: 4,419	I am so so sorry,try to be brave and strong,it is so sad My Gran had an aeortyl aneurysm (sp) so I think it is sililar or maybe the same She had stomach pain for months,they said it was IBS I rang her every day,one day when I rang she asked me to ring her milkman as he owed her £1,I said I would and ring her back Ten minutes later I phoned her back and she didnt answer,she never went out as she was too frail She had passed away in those 10 minutes,I felt so so sad,my children cried all night. That was 4 years ago,sometimes I am glad that I got to speak to her and I was the last one to,and that she probably didnt suffer and then other times I am angry that I didnt get there in time Thinking of you and your family and Hope you get through the funeral ok,so sorry xxxx __________________ https://www.facebook.com/groups/1442...06053/?fref=nf

12-07-2011, 05:49 PM	#3
Bindi Super Moderator Adult Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Hampshire Posts: 11,157	I am so sorry Clare xxx __________________

12-07-2011, 06:18 PM	#5
Anita Sayles Senior Member Sub Adult Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Plymouth, Devon UK Posts: 1,163	Sorry Clare x __________________ ... Be young, be foolish, but be happy... Life is too short to worry about unimportant things. Reach for the sky, touch your star, and then you find your dream... TheTams - 1965

12-07-2011, 06:37 PM	#6
pagan queen Senior Member Adult Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Kent Posts: 6,073	So, so sorry for your loss Clare. __________________ 1.0.1 TG Ibera 1.0.0 Chinese Frise dog 0.1.0 African Grey Parrot 0.1.0 Hahns Macaw 0.1.0 Pearly Conure 0.2.0 Guinea Pigs 0.2.0 Chickens 1.0.0 Bearded Dragon 7.4.0 Budgies 1.1.0 Cockatiels 1.3 Kids 1 Husband

12-07-2011, 05:57 PM	#4
Alan1 Super Moderator Adult Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Sunny Scotland Posts: 21,512	sorry to hear your news

12-07-2011, 07:27 PM	#7
sky Senior Member Adult Join Date: May 2008 Location: South Wales Posts: 2,901	Thinking of you Clare, BIG hugs x __________________ Kayx 2.7.4 THB 0.3.0 Gpigs 1 grumpy husband

12-07-2011, 07:31 PM	#8
filardimarg2 Senior Member Sub Adult Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Leamington Spa, Warwickshire Posts: 1,201	I'm so sorry to hear this news. Marg.

12-07-2011, 07:50 PM	#9
ClareandCo Senior Member Sub Adult Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 1,350	Thank you all.

12-07-2011, 08:29 PM	#10
Petrus Banned Juvenile Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Glasgow Posts: 997	Hi Claire, Sorry to hear about your news. I will say a prayer for your Dad. May he rest in peace. Peter x

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