I'm coming home

[becciwales]

Originally Posted by mediterraneansuze

I see what you mean, and I agree with that, thank goodness the stomach churning goes and becomes a more comfortable kind of love.

But let's get back to topic, this is about Rach and the hurt she is going through now.

I agree, thank goodness it does go and yes, everyone has ups and downs and yes, you do need to sort out issues, but sometimes things are not right and that is heartbreaking and that's what this is about.
Right now, no amount of it gets easier, you'll find the right person etc etc is believed, right now is like the end of the world and off loading helps, but it does get easier, you will get there and well done for going back to work, its brave and the first step up

[yuna1971]

Thanks all.
The difference between us is huge at this point and I think I'm best off out of it.
There's me having to live in his house (as a sort of lodger and trying to get over a broken heart, whilst trying to figure out what to do next) but...going to work, and allowing work and friends to support me at this time.
Then there's him who has basically been drinking and sleeping since Tuesday.
So I figure..1) best out of it 2) the better person.
There isn't much I can say or try and patch up when I'm told I don't love you anymore and that despite getting engaged to me, meeting my parents and acting over the moon, not to mention planning and booking our wedding in Las Vegas next year - where the deposit money is all but lost.
And let's not forget the big one - only moving my life and job from one end of the country to the other.
This will take a long time to heal. But I'm already the better person in terms of keeping my dignity. xx

[Merlin M]

Yes, you are clearly dealing with this better than him! It will be much better when you are able to move out and not see him everyday!

[becciwales]

It sounds like you are spot on, you are the better person, you are better off out of it, you need friends to support you and you have kept your dignity!! xx

[Catwoman63]

Originally Posted by Pussygalore

Kevin and I have will have been married 40 years next year but I'm sorry I don't beleive there is the perfect man/ woman or marriage, we've had to work at our marriage several times and it has never been easy. It would have been very easy to have given up but both of us have short tempers and what ever the problem its sorted the same day and is usually forgotten about the next. It doesn't take long for the first 'flush of love' to die and then I think its more of a close freindship/companionship that keeps you together, sharing interests and doing things together has always worked for us and the sexual side although still there isn't as important and the general relationship. I'm sorry it hasn't worked out for you but it always take two to argue and at least one to be first in saying sorry even if it wasn't their fault, in our case its usually me as I know I must be a right so and so to live with, recognising our own faults its a big step in making things work, none of us are perfect and many far from it.

Well that's very supportive of you!

We don't know what it was like for rach in the relationship, she is already feeling like ****e and is very upset, and doesn't need to be told that it takes 2 to have an argument, she is a grown woman and realises that, I don't know what it was like for her either but she needs the support if she's feeling like dieing

[yuna1971]

It's ok. I know I was no angel in this. Just gotta move on and take things day by day. Main thing is to get back to my house in Bristol. That's my first goal. xx

[becciwales]

Originally Posted by Catwoman63

Well that's very supportive of you

My sentiments exactly.

[emma_mcraf]

Originally Posted by yuna1971

It's ok. I know I was no angel in this. Just gotta move on and take things day by day. Main thing is to get back to my house in Bristol. That's my first goal. xx

Focus on what you want to do Rach and you'll get there.

[Suze65]

Originally Posted by emma_mcraf

Focus on what you want to do Rach and you'll get there.

Well said, and Rach you are the better person.

[Alan1]

Sorry to hear that Rach