Lonely in a crowd

[justmeandmytortoise]

Have you ever felt lonely in a crowd? Or just … lonely? I do.

I am a parent and have similar troubles, traumas and events just as the parent standing next to me at the school gate. I hear the same rumours, disasters, funny events and sad tales as the rest of them. But, as a single parent there is certainly one thing different ….. I have no-one to share my feelings with or chat to and discuss what I have learnt or heard. The other parents standing beside me can go home and share their frustration, sadness or feelings or what’s on their mind. I agree their partner might not listen, but they still have someone 'there' to talk to, get it off their chest or who appears to listen. (Where I live it is rare to be a single parent.)

‘Yesterday’ I entrusted a friend as I had no-one else …. 'Today' that friend shared what I had said and I have lost two friends and stand to lose another.

I feel even more gutted as I was not rude, out of turn or discourteous ..... I just wanted somone to listen to me when I had heard sad news. They have someone to turn to and probably did so and it would go no further, so they were no different than me in wanting someone to listen ....

I feel very sad …. and lonely in a crowd.

[Jemma1]

Hope you are okay, Wendy xxxxx

[TortBabe]

I'm a single parent too Wendy, and it is the loneliest thing sometimes, I do know just how you feel. Hope you feel better soon xxxx

[Marly]

Hi Wendy
I am not a single parent but have experienced something similar. Very complicated story, and don't want to bore you, but I do understand how you feel. If ever you want to talk please let me know, we can arrange something.
Gx

[EquestrianBabe]

Hope you're OK soon xx

[linda]

sorry to hear your feeling sad wendy xx

[Beverley]

I am sorry you feel lonely Wendy, I can empathise as well.
Sometimes we just need someone to talk to but it's difficult to get someone trustworthy.
My daughter is moving out, my son is never here, so I know what it feels like, I think that's why I have torts, they keep me busy and in a way they are company

[EJ]

Have you ever wondered why you've gravatated torwards keeping tortoises?

Have you ever been to many Tortoise Club meetings?

I'm sure you see the point of the questions.

The feeling you describe seems to be quite common among chelonian keepers.

How old are your kids?

Trust is a super big issue. You really have to be careful because human nature can turn on you in a heartbeat.

I've been participating in these chats for over 10 years... there's a reason for it.

I've bonded with some very good friends and have had some interesting experiences which I will never regret.

This is a good medium of communication but you do have to be careful.

Originally Posted by justmeandmytortoise

Have you ever felt lonely in a crowd? Or just … lonely? I do.

I am a parent and have similar troubles, traumas and events just as the parent standing next to me at the school gate. I hear the same rumours, disasters, funny events and sad tales as the rest of them. But, as a single parent there is certainly one thing different ….. I have no-one to share my feelings with or chat to and discuss what I have learnt or heard. The other parents standing beside me can go home and share their frustration, sadness or feelings or what’s on their mind. I agree their partner might not listen, but they still have someone 'there' to talk to, get it off their chest or who appears to listen. (Where I live it is rare to be a single parent.)

‘Yesterday’ I entrusted a friend as I had no-one else …. 'Today' that friend shared what I had said and I have lost two friends and stand to lose another.

I feel even more gutted as I was not rude, out of turn or discourteous ..... I just wanted somone to listen to me when I had heard sad news. They have someone to turn to and probably did so and it would go no further, so they were no different than me in wanting someone to listen ....

I feel very sad …. and lonely in a crowd.

[tartaruga amore]

always best to keep your own council, to rely only on yourself, if you can !!!
or a complete stranger, if you need to get something off your chest, write it all down in a email, send it to me hun, i have been down deeper than most of you could imagine, i always give a honest opinion

[Marly]

Nice post Ed, think you have a very valid point.