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Right now, no amount of it gets easier, you'll find the right person etc etc is believed, right now is like the end of the world and off loading helps, but it does get easier, you will get there and well done for going back to work, its brave and the first step up
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Thanks all.
The difference between us is huge at this point and I think I'm best off out of it. There's me having to live in his house (as a sort of lodger and trying to get over a broken heart, whilst trying to figure out what to do next) but...going to work, and allowing work and friends to support me at this time. Then there's him who has basically been drinking and sleeping since Tuesday. So I figure..1) best out of it 2) the better person. There isn't much I can say or try and patch up when I'm told I don't love you anymore and that despite getting engaged to me, meeting my parents and acting over the moon, not to mention planning and booking our wedding in Las Vegas next year - where the deposit money is all but lost. And let's not forget the big one - only moving my life and job from one end of the country to the other. This will take a long time to heal. But I'm already the better person in terms of keeping my dignity. xx |
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Yes, you are clearly dealing with this better than him! It will be much better when you are able to move out and not see him everyday!
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It sounds like you are spot on, you are the better person, you are better off out of it, you need friends to support you and you have kept your dignity!! xx
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We don't know what it was like for rach in the relationship, she is already feeling like ****e and is very upset, and doesn't need to be told that it takes 2 to have an argument, she is a grown woman and realises that, I don't know what it was like for her either but she needs the support if she's feeling like dieing
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It's ok. I know I was no angel in this. Just gotta move on and take things day by day. Main thing is to get back to my house in Bristol. That's my first goal. xx
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Focus on what you want to do Rach and you'll get there.
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Well said, and Rach you are the better person.
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Sorry to hear that Rach
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