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[suttysue]

Could the site bosses not be playing into the abusers hands by shutting it down

[suttysue]

sorry had to ask as not sure all i know is I've lost my friends

[yuna1971]

Originally Posted by EJ

for me... it's an escape.

If I can help... makes me feel better.

Its how it should be. And that is the bottom line.
To not lose sight of the initial question, to ignore any direct 'baiting' and just remember who's asking for the help.
And...... If the user doesn't accept the point you have made. That is that.
Up to them. Job done.

[Alan1]

Originally Posted by yuna1971

I think at the end of the day, the poster is gonna follow what he sees fit to - regardless of rifts, arguments etc. By page 5 , he's probably logged off and has decided what needs to be done. We can all post, give advice, state facts and figures til the cows come home but he will go with the response he sees fit to. xx

Worst of all though Rach is when you take the time to look stuff up and then type out posts only to find it is a waste of time because the OP is not even interested, mereley registering a name for future use, a kind of safety net because of the track record. People have pointed out several of these posters to me in the past, before I was doing any moderating I mean. If they pop up I'm sure they will be noticed

[freakinmental]

my dad said he wants to come back as a bear, sitting in the meadows all day lazing in rivers catching fish then hiding away in a snug cave to sleep out the winter, sounds perfect to me!

[Eire_Ade]

Hi Sue,

Chat box could not be moderated, this is however a tortoise forum primarily, the chat box was just a very small part of the forum, but it did spill out it's toxicity into the forum itself within posts, so it had to go.

[onarock]

Good Morning

[yuna1971]

Originally Posted by caledonia

Worst of all though Rach is when you take the time to look stuff up and then type out posts only to find it is a waste of time because the OP is not even interested, mereley registering a name for future use, a kind of safety net because of the track record. People have pointed out several of these posters to me in the past, before I was doing any moderating I mean. If they pop up I'm sure they will be noticed

Al, ...me and you have done plenty of that too!!
But that's all we can do.
Again... It's 'offer' advice and not 'force'. They don't wanna take it?
Then ... Up to them. But , if nothing else that person can still refer back to that post - if he/she has 2nd thoughts. It offers that at least. I was the same when I first joined, and I did refer back for alternative better ways. xx

((Rach for Mod 2011))

[yuna1971]

Originally Posted by Eire_Ade

Hi Sue,

Chat box could not be moderated, this is however a tortoise forum primarily, the chat box was just a very small part of the forum, but it did spill out it's toxicity into the forum itself within posts, so it had to go.

But.... May, just may return - if respect and sensitivity can be displayed?
(fair statement Ade??)

[EJ]

Feelings and opinions were escalating. This site has a dynamic that I think would have worked itself out. I'm willing to bet the owners and mods are thinking the same thing.

There was some pointed remarks towards the mods and some unsubstantiated rumors circulated in spite... the internet is a wonderful thing.

Originally Posted by suttysue

ok so what sort of abuse was happening