Very Sad - Page 2

Evie · 05-01-2012, 04:57 PM

What a shock for you all - I am sorry to hear your news

Brothers .... Overated !!!!!

**Bindi** · 05-01-2012, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Evie

What a shock for you all - I am sorry to hear your news

Brothers .... Overated !!!!!

I'm hearing you Anne

xx

TortBabe · 05-01-2012, 05:30 PM

Sorry to hear this, break ups are so sad

I have to agree about brothers

I have 2 and I could knock them out sometimes both of them are so very selfish and inconsiderate of their other halves sometimes

suttysue · 05-01-2012, 05:32 PM

Awe Bindi thats aweful after such a long time. I agree with post that says make it clear to your sister-in-law that you wish to stay friends I also think you should make that clear to your brother thats what your doing. She has been in your life a long time!!. it's never easy in situations like this. My sister split from her hubby after 16 years & 2 children. He was having an affair, my sister knows I cant stand the site of the little prat & trust me so does he!!!.

ClareandCo · 05-01-2012, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Evie

What a shock for you all - I am sorry to hear your news

Brothers .... Overated !!!!!

I'll change this to Husbands ... Overated

I don't have any brothers.

A sad situation - been there done that after 23 years of marriage. Do stay friends with them both though. Out of my husband's family his brother and wife cut us out completely, his sister and parents have been inconsistent sometimes sending birthday presents and then only a card and then presents again. The same with Christmas, although the parents did send some money (this fluctuates considerably and I don't think they've heard of inflation)!

Of course as far as any of them are concerned I am persona non grata.

**Bindi** · 06-01-2012, 09:22 AM

How could you be personna non grata Clare

Well my sis in law came round last night, we talked, had a few Baileys coffees and then I made her watch Benidorm to give her a break from crying - bless her

I made it clear that I wasn't taking sides and that she was family and always welcome at ours. Whatever happens for them it's going to be a difficult road but i know they've got to sort things out for themselves one way or another

Thanks again everyone, it's so lovely to have a bit of support from you guys when you need it xxxxx

TortBabe · 06-01-2012, 11:05 AM

Had my sis in law up last night very upset, my bro had started a row the evening before and refused to speak to her all day

then will he did he blamed her for starting it!

There may soon be a situation like yours in our family Bindi

**Bindi** · 06-01-2012, 12:19 PM

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Originally Posted by TortBabe

Had my sis in law up last night very upset, my bro had started a row the evening before and refused to speak to her all day

then will he did he blamed her for starting it!

There may soon be a situation like yours in our family Bindi

Oh dear Clare, I hope not

I do kinda think that the pressure we all put ourselves under at Christmas and the New Year can sometimes have a bit of an adverse effect on relationships - all that build-up, money spent and so on and then when it's all over the notoriously depressing month of January to contend with...

justmeandmytortoise · 07-01-2012, 04:05 AM

So sorry Bindi

Do you think they need time apart and may work something out? ... could they still stay friends?

Very hard when the family dynamics changes ... look after yourself and sending big hugs

**Bindi** · 07-01-2012, 03:19 PM

Thanks Wendy. It does look like it's definitely over

05-01-2012, 05:30 PM	#13
TortBabe Senior Member Adult Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 6,919	Sorry to hear this, break ups are so sad I have to agree about brothers I have 2 and I could knock them out sometimes both of them are so very selfish and inconsiderate of their other halves sometimes __________________ Busy Mum to ~ 2 Kids, 2 Yorkies, 1 Horsfield, 6 Hermanns, 2 Iberas, 6 Tunisians, 2 Indian Stars and 2 Pancakes

06-01-2012, 09:22 AM	#16
Bindi Super Moderator Adult Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Hampshire Posts: 11,157	How could you be personna non grata Clare Well my sis in law came round last night, we talked, had a few Baileys coffees and then I made her watch Benidorm to give her a break from crying - bless her I made it clear that I wasn't taking sides and that she was family and always welcome at ours. Whatever happens for them it's going to be a difficult road but i know they've got to sort things out for themselves one way or another Thanks again everyone, it's so lovely to have a bit of support from you guys when you need it xxxxx __________________

06-01-2012, 11:05 AM	#17
TortBabe Senior Member Adult Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 6,919	Had my sis in law up last night very upset, my bro had started a row the evening before and refused to speak to her all day then will he did he blamed her for starting it! There may soon be a situation like yours in our family Bindi __________________ Busy Mum to ~ 2 Kids, 2 Yorkies, 1 Horsfield, 6 Hermanns, 2 Iberas, 6 Tunisians, 2 Indian Stars and 2 Pancakes

07-01-2012, 04:05 AM	#19
justmeandmytortoise Senior Member Adult Join Date: May 2009 Location: Kent Posts: 2,682	So sorry Bindi Do you think they need time apart and may work something out? ... could they still stay friends? Very hard when the family dynamics changes ... look after yourself and sending big hugs __________________ www.justmeandmytortoise.webs.com Tortoise, Terrapin and Turtle group covering Kent and London

07-01-2012, 03:19 PM	#20
Bindi Super Moderator Adult Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Hampshire Posts: 11,157	Thanks Wendy. It does look like it's definitely over __________________

05-01-2012, 04:57 PM	#11
Evie Senior Member Sub Adult Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Southampton Posts: 1,752	What a shock for you all - I am sorry to hear your news Brothers .... Overated !!!!!

05-01-2012, 05:32 PM	#14
suttysue Senior Member Sub Adult Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: UK / Eng / Yorkshire Posts: 1,483	Awe Bindi thats aweful after such a long time. I agree with post that says make it clear to your sister-in-law that you wish to stay friends I also think you should make that clear to your brother thats what your doing. She has been in your life a long time!!. it's never easy in situations like this. My sister split from her hubby after 16 years & 2 children. He was having an affair, my sister knows I cant stand the site of the little prat & trust me so does he!!!.

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